05-30-2012, 03:30 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: At what point does the wife become the abuser?
Originally Posted by lickitesplit
Yes. And your point?
She acts like it.
Emotionally broken people usually suffer from some combination of PTSD and a personality disorder.
This makes it extraordinarily difficult for them to take responsibility for their actions (which leads to blameshifting) as they are literally afraid of harsh punishment if admitting a mistake. Their right brain/subconscious warns them that harsh punishment is coming - as it often has when they've screwed up.
All her relationships will be this way until she addresses it.
Deep down she is very very angry.
And, you are the beneficiary of those emotions. The anger "understudy" who now plays a leading role.