06-17-2012, 02:47 AM
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: At the local coffee shop
| | Re: i left.. now i'm back...
Originally Posted by cocovas09
after a month of continuous fighting there is finally some relief. but it's not without complications.
last night i agreed to another year of compromise. but with conditions. i had this burr up my ass to buy a condo, and now i have no interest in investing in a property with him until he breaks the news. he said he will transfer his car into my name. and he agreed to take me off the lease that we have. i am keeping the money that i took back when i decided to leave... about 14k now.
but i can already sense my feelings for him changing. i dont care as much for him. i resent him a lot. which is why i'm separating myself from him. if ever i feel the urge to leave for good, i can. i was contracted on the leasing agreement which if i hadnt come back to live i would have been out $2k....which wasnt the only.. but the most expensive reason to come back to live with him... which got me stuck back here in the first place. i've researched a few apartments closest to my work that i can afford on my salary... my escape route is ready.
on the other hand i'm SO RELIEVED that our relationship is back to normal. there is a caring for each other again.. rather than wishing each other pain and agony. on a daily basis life is happy. he is considerate.. sex is good. right now he's buying me a sandwich from publix... which he would NEVER do... i'm always responsible for dinner... and we're having a picnic by the pool tonight. again.. it would NEVER happen usually.
he's agreed to go to therapy with me to help me cope with the insecurities he's causing me.. because i think he really does understand how much all this messes with my head. so yall wish me luck. i guess the worst thing that can happen is that he'll leave me for some random brown chick who was forced on him. in which case i am totally and pathetically prepared for.. and i guess the best thing that can happen is some members of the Vas family fall off a cliff or something. either way... i am completely hopeful that everything works out for me. i try so hard to be a good wife.. and a good person in general.. so hopefully karma will be nice to me.
thanks for everything for those who've cared enough to keep up with me. hopefully i will post soon with happy, positive updates!
You're moving in the right direction. Therapy will give you better direction and hopefully, to him, the kick in the pants he so desperately needs to come clean to his family.
Out of curiosity, why wouldn't he buy you a sandwich from that place before? I don't get that.