Hello to all. I am new to the forums and would like some advice from anyone willing to give it....
When I was 16 I met a girl that was a hostes at my first place of employment. We talked a lot and became somewhat friends but never met outside of work. I asked her out a few times but she declined. I later left that job but went back after to ask her out one last time. She said yes and we began dating exclusively. A short time later I met her family. Her mother greatly disaproved because i was not a Christian at the time. We continued to date anyway and eventually got engaged but her mother made life very difficult for us. She took away and sold her car, kicked her out of the house and pretty much disowned her. Needless to say the pressure was to much for a young couple in love. We young and not prepared for the real world. We didn't know how to handle it, so it tore us apart.
Fast forward 12 years to the present....She has been married for 10 years with 3 kids, ages 8, 5, and 3. I've been married for 9 years with 2 children, ages 5 and 2. I love my wife and have been relatively happy for most of it. However, I have never stopped thinking about this girl. She was my first true love and the absolute love and joy of my life. I was the one that left her and didn't do so the way that I should have and it has been weighing on my heart ever since. My current wife was aware of this and allowed me to contact her through myspace to appologize. I thought closure would help get her out of my heart and off my mind. I did not. I have never stopped loving her, she was always in my heart and on my mind. We started talking through email and then eventually phone calls. After clearing the air and getting things out in the open, we realized we both feel the same way about each other. She touches my soul now like she did then and like no one else has. Our talks strated out catching up on our past and remenising of our days together. Now, our talks are of the future, things we want to do and how we are going to get there.
I think the questions I have to ask myself are obvious. I just don't know the answers. I'm having a hard time with the idea of leaveing my currrent wife, in part because i know she would not handle it well at all. But most of all I'm having a hard time with the children. Hers and mine. I don't want my kids to think I left them and their mother so I could be with a new family. That would be horrible and not the truth. Also, I absolutely cherish the time I get with my kids and wouldn't want that to be affected. I don't know what to do or how to handle it. Should I tell my wife I'm in love with another woman?
When I was 16 I met a girl that was a hostes at my first place of employment. We talked a lot and became somewhat friends but never met outside of work. I asked her out a few times but she declined. I later left that job but went back after to ask her out one last time. She said yes and we began dating exclusively. A short time later I met her family. Her mother greatly disaproved because i was not a Christian at the time. We continued to date anyway and eventually got engaged but her mother made life very difficult for us. She took away and sold her car, kicked her out of the house and pretty much disowned her. Needless to say the pressure was to much for a young couple in love. We young and not prepared for the real world. We didn't know how to handle it, so it tore us apart.
Fast forward 12 years to the present....She has been married for 10 years with 3 kids, ages 8, 5, and 3. I've been married for 9 years with 2 children, ages 5 and 2. I love my wife and have been relatively happy for most of it. However, I have never stopped thinking about this girl. She was my first true love and the absolute love and joy of my life. I was the one that left her and didn't do so the way that I should have and it has been weighing on my heart ever since. My current wife was aware of this and allowed me to contact her through myspace to appologize. I thought closure would help get her out of my heart and off my mind. I did not. I have never stopped loving her, she was always in my heart and on my mind. We started talking through email and then eventually phone calls. After clearing the air and getting things out in the open, we realized we both feel the same way about each other. She touches my soul now like she did then and like no one else has. Our talks strated out catching up on our past and remenising of our days together. Now, our talks are of the future, things we want to do and how we are going to get there.
I think the questions I have to ask myself are obvious. I just don't know the answers. I'm having a hard time with the idea of leaveing my currrent wife, in part because i know she would not handle it well at all. But most of all I'm having a hard time with the children. Hers and mine. I don't want my kids to think I left them and their mother so I could be with a new family. That would be horrible and not the truth. Also, I absolutely cherish the time I get with my kids and wouldn't want that to be affected. I don't know what to do or how to handle it. Should I tell my wife I'm in love with another woman?