Not yet married 1 year and it's falling apart.
I'm 23, haven't been married even a year and my marriage is falling apart. I love him, but not in love with him. Total time together is just about 3 years. I was ready to find the one to spend the rest of my life with, and him?? I'm not sure. He fell for me and fell for me FAST. Engaged in a month after meeting/dating. Did we move too quick? Sometimes I think so. His family hates me for unlogical and gossip reasons. I have never truely felt welcome and nor do I feel like my husband ever defends me when his family says/acts the rudest things. I am a very caring and loving person. I don't like being the one people dislike.
In our personal everyday life, I'm not happy. I'm the kinda wife who loves to be kissed and hugged when either of us come home from work each day and cuddle up in bed every night. He isn't that way though. I've told him that's important to me and it hurts me when I dont get that. Well it changes for a week then goes right back to no hugs/kisses/cuddling. To me it's the little things that matter most. I don't need flowers or gifts. Just happiness from my husband that he is glad to be with me.
There's many common sence things too that he just doesn't get. I'm very common sence oriented.... Take care of the pets (feed, water, let them out, bathe etc.) I'm always the one to do these things and when I ask him..."oh I thought you did it" or something like its not his responsibility. Completely oblivious to his surrounds and eat needs to get done. Even personal hygiene... That's what gets me most. You would think he'd wanna be clean feeling for himself... Especially for me. Sorry not gonna have sex with a smelly husband who hasn't showered in 2 or 3 days because your going back to work tomorrow. Goes for showering and brushing teeth. I feel like a mom already having a little 3 year old teaching him hygiene. Really??
The thing that I have back in my mind is that I meet someone a few months before I met my husband and I turned him down because I wanted to be single for a bit since I just got out of a relationship. Well we match to a T with compatibility. Same interests and passion for life. I have talked to him before about my marriage. He's not talking me out to try and get me with him. He's very respectful and just cares to see me happy. I have the guilt feeling of "why did I turn him down?" sitting inside me wondering if I made a mistake 3 years ago.
There's much more but I hope to get some insight and more about my marriage will be brought up.
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