In short, my wife let me know she had been unhappy for years because too many things in my life came before her. For this she blamed me for the end of the marriage. I blamed my ex for not letting me know sooner and then not really giving me a chance to change once I understood her unhappiness.
Dear Blind... do you think you put many things before your wife? If so did it take the separation for you to see it?
I am still hoping my marriage can have a happy ending which is why I ask. I feel a lot like you said your wife felt. I am giving my husband a chance to change but feel the only way is separation as we have gone through this way too many times in the past.
H: Neglectful, financially irresponsibly, alcoholic (but not a mean drunk)
He is a great Dad though and adores our kids. He says he loves me but never really shows it.
I work full time, pay all the bills, do most everything for the kids, cook dinner every night, clean ..... ( I could keep going)
In short, I just don't feel like he is pulling his weight in the relationship and he never saves any money and drinks every night. I am always the one having to use my salary for retirement, kids college, home improvements, vacation etc. He helps pay the regular bills but blows everything else. I also pay half the regular bills.
I think he feels like since I make more it is my job but he keeps $1600 a month from his paychecks.
Over the years I feel like I am his "sugar momma" and not his wife. He never compliments me anymore, we never go on dates and I never get a card or anything for no reason.
In short the romance is GONE.