06-20-2012, 10:18 AM
Join Date: Jun 2011
| | Re: What am i waiting for?!?
I "was" stuck, at times my mind would drift to divorce and I found myself becoming more depressed and hopeless feeling. When I put the thoughts of divorce out of my mind, I could see hope once again, and so I put my nose to the grindstone and plugged away.
My ex obviously couldn't keep her mind off of divorce, and so now we are divorced.
It sucks, but on the outside she appears to be happier, our son is definitely having some issues, it will affect who he is at his core and it has also changed my view of what marriage is supposed to be and I can pretty much guarantee I do not want my son to follow in my footsteps so will certainly not be endorsing marriage to him as he grows. Of course if its what he truly wants I'd be proud and happy but he won't find the motivation for marriage from his parents example, his grandparent's example will probably be obsolete for him. If he has an adulthood of serial monogamy I'd consider it a success.
I'd say get off the fence, if you want to divorce then it is all on you, do it already, your life will not get any better, nor your childrens' or your husbands but atleast you will have satisfied your curiosity plus you will no longer have the nagging feeling of being on the fence. And you most likely will find new romance partners that bring you some enjoyment, maybe even one worthy of spending the rest of your days with.
But if you don't want divorce then start putting it out of your mind and actually do something to improve your life and your marriage, your whole family would benefit.