06-23-2012, 07:16 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: love but not sure im in love
Originally Posted by lostwithin
This sounds so much like my situation. Always walking on eggshells because any slip of the tongue or "tone" sends her into a flare up. Possibly sending a really good time into a crappy time in the blink of an eye.
My wife does takes medications but it goes beyond that. Its a control thing for her. In the last 8mo or so I've been pushing back. I'm tired of being treated like a child.
Like you, I can count on my hands how many times we've had sex in two years.
It seems as though we have good friends living us, rather than lovers or wives.
I hope that both of us can muster the courage to do what is needed to improve our lives with or without them. Preferably the former.
I'm not certain which direction I want to go now. I care about her and love her, but I don't know what kind of love it is. I care about what happens to her. I support her. I will continue to be concerned for. But, I don't know that I'm actually in love with her. I'm not certain. I know this sucks. I spoke with a friend today who was very encouraging. Kept telling me to try certain things. But, last night, my wife told me that things were not going to change. That this is how it is. With that, I'm not certain what to do. Somehow it's comforting to know there's someone else out there going through the same thing - even though it is a really tough situation. Thanks.