06-20-2012, 08:17 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: I don't think I love him anymore.
Originally Posted by unhappy_mama
I have been married to my husband for almost 8 years. I don't like sex. I have never really been that sexually attracted to him and he wants sex all the time. I married him because we had a lot in common and we had fun together. However, I was only 18 when I met him and VERY naive. We were together for 2 1/2 years before we got married, so I thought I was ready to do this. He is an alcoholic and I had no idea until we moved in together after we got married. I coped with this by drinking too. Now we have 2 kids and I stopped all together while he continues to drink. I have asked him so many times to stop, even tried to leave for a week away from him. He will quit for a week or two and go right back. He has let me down so many times I don't think I have any respect or love left for him. Between the drinking and the pressure for sex I don't want, I want a divorce but I'm afraid of messing up my kids. What should I do?
I would first try marriage counseling and AA. If you have tried all possible options to fix the marriage then would not think divorce is better for kids then being with two unhappy people?
Personally I think more harm is done to children mentally with unhappy marriages then living with happy single parent. The key is to keep communication open and allow father have equal custody if you go the divorce route and avoid fights and using children to get back at each other.