If he can't afford a lawyer, can he still get alimony? I thought people only got alimony if they weren't able to work. He is fully capable of getting a better job, but he is just too lazy and refuses to better himself.
Just did some research, found out that in CA if you are married less than 10 years you don't have to pay alimony... we've only been married 3.5 years. On top of that we don't have children and he isn't disabled so he wouldn't get any money anyways.
Originally Posted by River1977
I don't understand anything you wrote. For one thing, all that you say you cancelled and could no longer afford are things your salary alone can pay for. Do you live in a castle or something and drive Lamborghinies? Additionally, if he spent all the money from the joint bank account, why would still maintain a joint bank account? Whatever happens is what you ask for.
Surely, this is just another troll post. Right?
In response to this ^... sorry if I wasn't clear enough, just super frustrated, having a hard time living with somebody who tells me they love me, but won't listen to how frustrated I am because they are high all the time. I tell him that he over-drafted the bank account, he never learns his lesson. The thing about having separate accounts right now is that he would overdraw his account leaving me with paying all the bills anyway and not getting any help from him. It is pointless... unless I take his debit card away and give him cash for gas... I wonder how well that will sit with him.
As for our salary... we live in Los Angeles, our rent is $1100 a month, our credit card bills (thanks to him) are $900 a month, our food bill (thanks to him) is about $400 for groceries plus whatever he spends on fast food at lunch (even when he can make his own lunch and bring it with him) its like I'm feeding a horse, car payment is $400 a month, cell phone/electricity/gasoline/internet $400 on a good month, $110 a month on car insurance... it is freaking expensive to live. And this doesn't even include his weed habit. He only brings in $300 a week if I'm lucky and he works his full 40 hours. It is getting out of hand. Separate bank accounts will be crazy hard, but I guess it is the next step I need to take before moving out.