So i just confronted my wife about her being slightly overweight. I feel like i approached the topic very tactfully but i need advice cause its getting serious really quickly. Ill post the what i said and her response. Please help me out with advice cause im at a loss right now.
I'm a 19 year old USA Marine
She's a 20 year old USA Sailor
i love you more then anything. I don't want anybody else other then you. You mean the world to me and I hope you know and feel that way by now <3 There is a huge emotional connection between us. I know we would go to any length to do anything for eachother. I just looked at the picture you sent me and it looked like you gained weight since the last time you sent me a full picture like that and it's really bugging me. Please understand that im in no way trying to make you feel bad or insult you but its getting to the point to where i felt like i wasn't really physically attracted to you when i saw that picture. i dont think about anybody else but you WIFE
but i feel its important that we maintain a high physical fitness standard. thats big with me and contains countless perks, the biggest being overall positive health. i feel like since we're married we should be 100% honest and never hide anything from eachother, whether it be secrets or honest opinions. its just something that started to bug me and become really apparent tonight so i feel like i NEED to let you know because thats fair. We should know how we feel about eachother in every aspect, especially since we're married. Sorry about the essay but i want to make sure you understand my discomfort but also how carefully i tread this because once again i mean in no way to offend or upset you, only to inform because thats what i beleive is right and fair
I knew this would happen. I happen to be wearing an immensely loose shirt, first of all. Second of all, since being underway I've lost weight because I can barely eat. The food here makes me sick. HUSBAND
, nothing about me physically has really changed since we've been together. Period. I'm not going to stress myself out over this all the time, HUSBAND
. You're like 95% of the reason I feel like hell about myself so often. Because I always wonder what you will think of me and how you view me. I'm tired of it. I want to be around people that make me feel good about myself. I'm tired of worrying and crying over you, and of making myself sick to my stomach worrying that you're thinking badly about me. Especially that now it's obvious that you are. HUSBAND
, I'm not stupid enough to think I'm ugly because I'm chubby. YOU might not look at me the way I wish you would but the looks I get from other men let me know I'm not ugly, even if you don't make me feel that way.
You always wonder why I cover myself up when we're having sex, or why I don't reveal more of myself when I send you pictures and stuff. THIS IS WHY. You don't say things out loud but the looks you give me tell me you're not thinking the things you say to me. I hate it. And I hate feeling like I'm not good enough for you because of it. It's actually gotten to the point where I know you think that kind fo stuff about me... I don't even want to have sex with you anymore.
I'd rather be with someone who realized that they're lucky if being heavy is my biggest flaw. I'm out.