Originally Posted by kairi13
i know im coming across a young girl who doesn't know anything...thats why you want to hear my husbands side....
This is not true at all. One of the things that gets brought up here a lot is that we are not comfortable with hearing only one side of the story.
An example of why:
My sister-in-law accused my brother of hitting her and injuring her twice. It turns out that both times it was in self-defense. The first time she was yielding a butcher knife at him while he was holding his daughter. He put the child in the playpen and disarmed her… yes she had bruises … form him taking the knife away from her (he’s a black belt). The second time she jumped on his back and was trying to gouge out his eyes and biting his neck.-(Bi-polar chick)
You are talking about taking your child across the country, away from- her father. This is very serious.
Now that you have told us more of what is going on, forget the books I suggested. Your marriage is way too gone for those.
How soon are you planning on leaving for California?
If you are going to me around for a while you should get in touch with a local domestic violence organization. You can get counseling, they can help you develop an exit plan, and even have a safe place for you to go to if things get bad. The ones I’ve worked with will come pick people up for appointments. They even give their clients cell phones that can call 911 for help… sort of your secret phone for help.
Reach out to people around where you live, professionals who can help you.