ok..here it goes..my husband has always been a great dad and husband in everyway. We have been married for 30 years. There is a woman he works with that I don't trust...a group from his work went on a buisness trip for a week...while there ..after asking him not to dout on her while there he still sits next to her on the plane there and back ..sits next to her at dinner , lunch etc... she even rode shotgun in the rental car we spoke about it half way through the trip and I told him how it bothered me and he said ok ...but still flew home next to her. I was not a happy camper. after discussing this for several days ..I just gave up because I told him it was disrespectful to me and he said I was making a big deal about it and that it wasn't like he did anything with her . Well a few days later he calls me by her name while we were in bed and he was sleeping ..he reached over caressed my behind and called her name...I asked him why and he said he didn't even know or remember it because he was asleep. I asked him if he had ever thought about her and he said well I work with her..I said no you know what Im talking about and there was complete silence I said your silence has answered my question and then he said yes he did once have a thought of her sexually. and when I blew up he said he hadn't had thoughts of just her. (he was just trying to cover it up because I told him I hated him) I felt so betrayed and unloved by him. this has never happened before. A few days later we were talking and I said I was trying to work on the marriage and he said what marriage ..we don't have a marriage there is no intimacy ..i then asked if he was unhappy and he said yes and i asked how long and he said well the last couple of days and a few min later told me about 6 mos...I told him if that was the case then I would file for divorce and then he said so you are going from this to the d word and I asked what he wanted and he said go to conceling we went ...but I don't feel the same ..see he was my first and only love and then I had children and they were also my world. And I just feel like his half of my heart is now gone..I don't see him the same way and don't feel the same about him. How dare he do this to me...I loved him with all of my heart till I had my kids and now I don't know how I feel or if i still want to be married to him. Am I being a drama queen?