07-13-2012, 02:59 PM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Re: Made a choice based on stress and emotion.
Keep in mind that in a situation like yours, you are benefiting from the distance apart (less tension, focus on fun, no effort being made to work out issues) but you are not experiencing any of the drawbacks. He's still very much trying to be active with you and show you why the two of you should be together.
If you really want to imagine what it would be like to be friends with him, consider that you will have to split up half the assets, the child support will cover day care and that's probably it, he won't be around as much and when he does, imagine a hottie next to him playfully kissing him and his smile when she does.
If you read all that and you still think friends is the way to go, do yourself both a favor and tell him it's over.
If not, consider that communication is probably the biggest problem here and you can't run from it forever. Also consider that the reason you are so happy with him lately is because you aren't focusing on conflict - and if you eliminated the conflict, it could be like this with him every day. You need to talk productively.