07-17-2012, 11:59 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
| | Re: leave now or try harder
Originally Posted by smylie
For example, instead of asking yourself, what you can do to earn his unconditional love, and affection, ask yourself if his behavior towards you is consistent with someone who desires a loving, affectionate relationship with you.
A better question to ask yourself is why the way he treats you has not made you leave. A better question still is why you tolerate feeling this way. It truly is hard, but you have to love yourself more than you love him. Sitting there allowing him to make you unhappy is not going to make him want to make you happy. Sitting there wishing he loved you is not going to make him love you.
It is what it is, and no one has any magic potions to offer you. The closest thing to that is suggesting you leave (or make him leave). Leaving will accomplish one of two things. Very often, leaving will bring the other partner out of their fog. He suddenly realizes he still loves his wife, doesn't want to lose her, and becomes desperate to keep her. So, either it will work to bring his love and attention back to you, or it will set you free of your misery to discover love and happiness can happen again. He wasn't the last fish, and you obviously didn't get the prize catch. He isn't worth it, and the only thing you are hanging on to are your emotions and your hurt feelings. Your good and common sense will make you see that if you just get the nerve to do something other than sitting there thinking he is so great when he showed you he isn't much at all. Have the nerve to turn the tables and take back your power that you handed him on a silver. Think more of yourself than you think of him, and you will discover YOUR true value.