He said he has to take one of his Marines to an alcohol class at 6am every day and that is why he needs the car. I feel stupid even typing that, knowing I accepted it as an answer. When I asked him about what he would tell them on wednesday, he said that I am his priority and he will just say he can't take them.
Yea that’s a pretty lame one isn’t it? He has not made you a priority. And I doubt that he needs to take anyone anywhere. The command generally has transportation for these things. Also, how large is the base? Most things should be in walking distance since most of the enlisted guys would live in the barracks and not have a vehicle.
I also doubt that there is any alcohol class that is daily. Most counseling is once a week at most.
I am not sure I know what is going on either. When I asked him if he was seeing someone else or met someone else he said he wasn't, and from what I could tell I didn't see anything in his email/bank/fb/phone that would make me think otherwise.
Cheaters seldom tell the truth. They will lie. They lie even when you hand them solid evidence. Asking him does no good expect to warn him that you are starting to catch on and might be looking.
I thought the same about my ex (son’s father) until I searched his car. I found condoms hidden in the wheel well, a compartment where the tire changing tools go and in the glove box. I put every small numbers on them and then kept checking… the numbers ones disappeared and were replaced with non-numbered ones.
Do you really know that he’s going out with his male friends every night?
My bet is that he is having an affair with a woman who does not want children and has convinced him that this is great because he can have all the toys he wants and play all he wants. This is where his change of heart comes in. Sorry but this just hit me....
But then I asked him tonight to please not spend a lot of money because we just bought a 200$ tire for the car. He said he bought shots for his Marine buddy and this guys "friends" and only spent like 30 dollars. He said he was driving him and his "friends" home and would be home after. I told him to just stay with his friends.
Hm…. And he did not argue did he?
Everything seems to be pointing to him having an affair but he seems shocked and insulted when I question him. I am not sure he has crossed the line, but I feel a serious lack of respect for our marriage.
Of course he acted insulted. That reaction is very concerning as well. It’s pretty typical guilty reaction. If he’s basically gone most of the time he’s not at work, he has no respect for your marriage and little care for you right now.
How is your sex life?
Am I being unreasonable or should he not want to spend so much time away from me?
You and your husband should be spending a minimum of 15 hours a week doing date-like things. This means just the two of you doing things together with no other distractions… no other friends, not doing chores…. Just the two of you cuddling, holding hands, talking, on walks, out to dinner.
And then there is time a normal couple would spend together doing chores, fixing the house, maybe shopping, etc.
He should not have single friends who he goes out drinking with. You both should have friends who are friends of your marriage.. this usually means other couples who respect your marriage. Sure there can be single friends involved in social gatherings as well. But not as the core of either of your social friends.