08-12-2012, 07:39 AM
Join Date: Aug 2012
| | Re: So Unsure
Originally Posted by EleGirl
Kelbrae, you are definately in a bad place. It sounds to me like you are confused as to why you feel this way. So maybe we need to do some digging.
How old are you, he and your children?
Is your husband the only person you have anger towards? How about your children? Your family? co-workers?
How many hours a week do you work?
How many days off do you have a week?
How many hours a week do you and your husband spend doing things together as a couple.
That's a start.... will wait for your answers.
Im 28, he is 36 our children are 4 and 15 months. There are times I do snap at my children but nothing unusual. I work odd hours, Ill work 24 hours, then be off a day, another 24 and be off 2 days another 24 be off 3 days and i get one 4 day weekend every 3 weeks. This schedule does cause stress but the money is great. On the days I work he completely steps up to the role of basically a single parent. He cares for our 2 children by himself. Im sure there are other men who do this, but I dont know of any. No, we dont spend any time to ourselves, we just dont seem to carve time out to do it. With my work hours I seem to be always tired and then the children need tending. When all this started back in November I felt a little overwhelmed, my hair started falling out (its grown back). My H brought up the possibility of post partum depression but I flatly denied that. I wasnt depressed. At the time I was week late despite it coming like clockwork. I could not remember the date we last had sex so i took a pregnancy test. It was negative. I waited a week, still no period, so i took another test, negative. I scheduled a Dr. appt and was going to have an implant. I had to wait 2 weeks for ins. approval , still no period. After the implant I waited another 2 weeks and finally my period arrived.
I feel like neither one of us made the effort to carve out time for ourselves. He said he had been walking on eggshells for the last nine months. I try to discuss this calmly with him. I asked him the other night if he had changed his mind about us. He said no. He was calm and stated that he wanted to work on us, go back to marriage counseling. Im the one who ends up crying. I just dont know what good it willl do. I dont know what to do other than seperate and see if I miss him.
Last edited by kelbrae; 08-12-2012 at 07:43 AM.