1st off I am new here but I really need some help.
My husband is a lovely man. He's got a great sense of humor, he's kind, he's a great dad, my family LOVES him. We have been together for 12 years, married for 8. When we were younger he would get real ugly but I stuck around. After our 2nd son (3 years ago) he was even more amazing than ever before. I thought that we were finally in a good place... last night proved me wrong.
We went out for my grandmother's b-day. Dinner & then back to their house for cake & presents outside. There were 18 of us there & I ended up sitting at a different table than my husband & our 9 year old & 3 year old sons. I was a mere 2 feet away. When we got back to granny's house I was in charge of the cakes & presents. I left my sons with my husband & dad. I didn't think that was a big deal.
When we got home my husband lost it. He went off on our 9 year old son for not taking better care of his shoes. He was screaming & yelling & called him a "spoiled brat". I jumped in at that time & asked him to stop. I have no problem with him disciplining out children but that was uncalled for. The 9 year old was bawling, he is still today apologizing for making his dad so angry.
I put the boys down & that's when all hell broke loose. I am a stay at home mom who cleans for my dad (bringing home $70 a week). According to my husband last night I am a lazy "fat ass" who does nothing. My house isn't spotless but it's not dirty. Last night he was going off on me about needing to get a job but just a month ago he didn't want me to get a job. IF I were to go get a job he would be upset because he would have to help out more with the kids & the house (been there & done that before we had our 2nd kid).
Right now my kids are staying the night with my dad. My husband is in the bedroom. When he came home from work he told me that he didn't want to be around me when I came in to fold some laundry.
I honestly don't know what to do any more. I have no job. If I were to leave would he get my kids?Then he would be able to treat them any which way he wants & I wouldn't be there to stop it. I love him so much but this is getting old. I hate the way all of this makes me feel.
My husband is a lovely man. He's got a great sense of humor, he's kind, he's a great dad, my family LOVES him. We have been together for 12 years, married for 8. When we were younger he would get real ugly but I stuck around. After our 2nd son (3 years ago) he was even more amazing than ever before. I thought that we were finally in a good place... last night proved me wrong.
We went out for my grandmother's b-day. Dinner & then back to their house for cake & presents outside. There were 18 of us there & I ended up sitting at a different table than my husband & our 9 year old & 3 year old sons. I was a mere 2 feet away. When we got back to granny's house I was in charge of the cakes & presents. I left my sons with my husband & dad. I didn't think that was a big deal.
When we got home my husband lost it. He went off on our 9 year old son for not taking better care of his shoes. He was screaming & yelling & called him a "spoiled brat". I jumped in at that time & asked him to stop. I have no problem with him disciplining out children but that was uncalled for. The 9 year old was bawling, he is still today apologizing for making his dad so angry.
I put the boys down & that's when all hell broke loose. I am a stay at home mom who cleans for my dad (bringing home $70 a week). According to my husband last night I am a lazy "fat ass" who does nothing. My house isn't spotless but it's not dirty. Last night he was going off on me about needing to get a job but just a month ago he didn't want me to get a job. IF I were to go get a job he would be upset because he would have to help out more with the kids & the house (been there & done that before we had our 2nd kid).
Right now my kids are staying the night with my dad. My husband is in the bedroom. When he came home from work he told me that he didn't want to be around me when I came in to fold some laundry.
I honestly don't know what to do any more. I have no job. If I were to leave would he get my kids?Then he would be able to treat them any which way he wants & I wouldn't be there to stop it. I love him so much but this is getting old. I hate the way all of this makes me feel.