What do you think of the situation?
Wow! I think you had EVERY RIGHT to tell your wife to GET OUT.
And I would also recommend that you NOT RECONCILE with this woman again. Enough is enough.
1. She cheated on you. Don't make excuses for her...it was a long-distance relationship, blah, blah, blah. SHE CHEATED ON YOU. SHE was MARRIED to you and CHOSE to have SEX with SOMEONE ELSE because....whatever reason it WAS, it wasn't GOOD ENOUGH!
2. You gave her a second chance after she betrayed you and your marriage.
3. You two got in a very heated argument and she PHYSICALLY ATTACKED YOU WITH KNIVES and BURST YOUR EARDRUM! It does NOT matter that YOU are both versed in martial arts; she should know that YOU would never use your superior size, special skills and knowledge to take advantage of the situation and attack her in a deadly manner. Apparently, she has no such compunction when she loses her temper. What the h*ll kind of loose cannon is she?!?
The fact that NEITHER of you has friends/family in the state means that your lives will be more stressful, but that IN NO WAY excuses her violent, cheating ways. Get the h*ll out while you still can. If you were a WOMAN and your husband did this to you, we would ALL BE SCREAMING AT YOU to call the police and press charges. I know it will probably be futile to suggest that to you; you care about her and don't want her arrested, and you don't want to be embarrased to be THAT guy whose wife hauled off on him and attacked him physically.
Well, I won't waste my breath on trying to convince you otherwise. I WILL SAY, however, that God help the NEXT PERSON she attacks physically (AND SHE WILL, don't you DARE kid yourself that she won't); maybe THAT person won't get off as lucky (right, a busted eardrum and a stab wound). How sh*tty will you feel THEN when you KNEW in advance what a violent, unstable person your wife is.
NOPE, do NOT go there. Do not start justifying her behavior HERE or TO YOURSELF. Just DON'T. Don't wanna hear it!
I would strongly suggest that you please BUY and READ "No More Mr. Nice Guy." I think it would benefit you TREMENDOUSLY.
I would also suggest YOU GET INTO IC IMMEDIATELY to find out WHY you would accept such shabby treatment from someone who is supposed to LOVE you. Adultery? Physical attacks? Do you think you don't DESERVE any better? Do you think you'll never find anyone else to love you? Do you think you'll be alone the rest of your life (it's her or NOTHING)? Do you think this is LOVE? For the answers to these and other IMPORTANT questions, go to a counselor ALONE and sort out all the things you want and fear and need and desire. Go find out HOW to build a life YOU can be excited about and strive for because THIS LIFE....ain't it!