My husband and I have been having problems in our marriage that have gotten progressively worse over the last 4 years or so.. and we’ve been married for 6. We fight over many things, but the main thing is he constantly criticizes me. I can’t do anything right. If he asks me to call him more, I will then he will say I’m not doing it enough or I call at the wrong time. Nothing I do is ever good enough. I work 10-12 hours per day and he complains that my side of the room is a little messy. He says I don’t raise my daughter right (his step daughter) and the decisions I make with her are all wrong. I could go on and on… the bottom line is nothing I do is right and he always concentrates on the negative.
Another HUGE issue is we have completely opposite work schedules. He works nights and I work days, so we only get weekends together. I think this is a HUGE problem in our relationship. He blames me though and says I don’t give him enough attention, when the reality is I’m not getting enough attention either but there’s nothing we can do about it becuase we never see each other!
Well, over the past year he has told me he wants a divorce, or has told me to get the F out, at least 15 different times. It’s always during an argument. I get really upset and cry for days and then he ends up wanting to make things work. It’s a cycle that keeps happening over and over. Last night we got in a small argument. He told me he can’t do this anymore and wants me out. I told him I WANT to make this work and he can’t just tell me to leave every time we argue. After a good talk, he agreed to give us another shot, and to try marriage counseling. But when we argued today, he told me that he wants a divorce and I need to hurry and get out. He even said “both of you” pertaining to me and my daughter, as if I wouldn’t take her with me… the way he said it, was as if we make his life horrible.
I am so tired of being treated like this. Every time we fight he tells me to leave, and I feel it’s because he likes the reaction he gets. it almost seems like he LIKES to hurt me. on top of it, he is MEAN. He says mean things to hurt me on purpose, like how I can’t get a dime out of him when I don’t even intend to! I make more than him anyway. :scratchhead:
I plan on leaving this time. Even if he ends up wanting me to stay, I have to get out. I guess my only question is, am I doing the right thing by leaving?
A little background, my daughter is 15 and he has been her father figure since she was 5. She says she doesn’t like him. I think it may be because he is pretty strict so I always take her opinion of him with a grain of salt. My dad was strict and I hated him when I was 15 too.
I moved to my husband’s state about 8 years ago (for him.. we were in a 2 year long distance relationship.) We’ve been through a lot together. He used to say I saved his life because when we met he had cancer and I gave him the will to live. I literally have no friends or family here, but I have a great job and my daughter loves it here so we plan on staying in this area. It is tough having no friends or family around in times like this...
We rent from his mother so I have to be the one to get out of the house.
Thank you for your thoughts.
Another HUGE issue is we have completely opposite work schedules. He works nights and I work days, so we only get weekends together. I think this is a HUGE problem in our relationship. He blames me though and says I don’t give him enough attention, when the reality is I’m not getting enough attention either but there’s nothing we can do about it becuase we never see each other!
Well, over the past year he has told me he wants a divorce, or has told me to get the F out, at least 15 different times. It’s always during an argument. I get really upset and cry for days and then he ends up wanting to make things work. It’s a cycle that keeps happening over and over. Last night we got in a small argument. He told me he can’t do this anymore and wants me out. I told him I WANT to make this work and he can’t just tell me to leave every time we argue. After a good talk, he agreed to give us another shot, and to try marriage counseling. But when we argued today, he told me that he wants a divorce and I need to hurry and get out. He even said “both of you” pertaining to me and my daughter, as if I wouldn’t take her with me… the way he said it, was as if we make his life horrible.
I am so tired of being treated like this. Every time we fight he tells me to leave, and I feel it’s because he likes the reaction he gets. it almost seems like he LIKES to hurt me. on top of it, he is MEAN. He says mean things to hurt me on purpose, like how I can’t get a dime out of him when I don’t even intend to! I make more than him anyway. :scratchhead:
I plan on leaving this time. Even if he ends up wanting me to stay, I have to get out. I guess my only question is, am I doing the right thing by leaving?
A little background, my daughter is 15 and he has been her father figure since she was 5. She says she doesn’t like him. I think it may be because he is pretty strict so I always take her opinion of him with a grain of salt. My dad was strict and I hated him when I was 15 too.
I moved to my husband’s state about 8 years ago (for him.. we were in a 2 year long distance relationship.) We’ve been through a lot together. He used to say I saved his life because when we met he had cancer and I gave him the will to live. I literally have no friends or family here, but I have a great job and my daughter loves it here so we plan on staying in this area. It is tough having no friends or family around in times like this...
We rent from his mother so I have to be the one to get out of the house.
Thank you for your thoughts.