Re: I love you but I'm no longer in love with you
Love is a choice, however, as in our case (separated 15 months and heading for divorce after 21 yr marriage), love/relationship killers can occur in the relationship that destroy it. Therefore, it is possible to love someone, but fall out of love and not be in "love" with them...if ongoing circumstances/behaviours kill the marriage and don't allow it to grow. These can include; ongoing abuse (verbal, mental, or physical), adultery, addictions, anger issues, etc...
Hopefully, counseling will assist in resolving these issues so the couple can reconcile and have a loving, fulfilling relationship. If this doesn't happen, the relationship is probably doomed and the cycles will continue...Unfortunately, I speak from painful experience. We can't rely on our feelings, because they decieve us. However, at the same time, it takes two to make the marriage work and to help the love to grow and to thrive.
Does this make sense?