After 6 years of marriage I feel this is breaking point. The question is, how much do you 'give' before you know it's time to 'give up'.
I do truly love my husband and all the special points that make him a good man. But he sees the world so differently to me. He has no sense of responsibility and puts himself first all the time. He and my daughter (now 17) kick off all the time and it's exhausting. I get home from work after a long commute and he's just sat there drinking watching crap tv. He is emotional 'challenged' due to a tough life as a youngster, and I have usually coped ok, but I've got a lot of baggage too and with the stress building, now I'm resorting to child like behaviour to get a reaction. Unfortunately it's having the desired effect and I'm getting scarred for both us.
Having extended my mortgage a few years ago on the basis of 2 incomes, I am now forced to sell up because he gave me little contributions, now gives me nothing and hasn't done for over 6 months. I know the recession is having an impact but he still drinks and gambles daily!!??!! It has created so many arguments (increasingly volatile), we're beginning to 'hate' each other and the drinking is getting really bad.
All my head screams to end it, but I'm in such turmoil emotionally, my heart can't let go. I'll lose my lover, my only good friend and confident and all our hopes and dreams of the new life together we planned for when the teen goes her own way.
When do you know when to quit?
How do you bite the bullet and take the leap - I'm terrified.