Homemaker- I had to force it out of him. After arguing, I asked him what he wanted to do and he said he didnt know if he wanted to be with me anymore. I asked and forced him to tell me why. Thats when he told me he had been pretending for a while now.
I just ended a relationship where I was being kept around for company and convenience. Then they have that excuse, ohhhhh, I didn't want to hurt your feelings. So.....you decided to use up all my time and energy and make me feel bad about myself because I wasn't getting needed reciprocal love in a relationship, and it felt cold and lonely? How is that not hurting my feelings?
I hope you will just leave. It's honestly not worth trying to build a relationship with someone who knows they don't love you and pretend to do so because they are too weak to deal with teh consequences, or even open a discussion and let you, as an individual, have a choice about what to do with your life, given the truth.
I'm glad you figured it out and didn't carpet sweep. Of course you need the truth to know what to do. Good for you for following your instincts and prying it out of him.
As for me, I am so glad I had an apartment to drive home to. I was okay waiting til next day to leave, but then he tried to start and argument by saying that he thought I was going to get up and break his precious champagne glasses he had made and had all waiting for boxing up. I was in bed, saying I would leave in the morning, that I was going back to sleep. But after he tried to start an argument, by accusing me of something I wasn't even thinking of doing, I decided to leave. How insulting! I mean, the truth was no surprise, but then him trying to make me out to be some destructive angry bi*ch, I was like oh, now that I know I'm wasting my time here with you, I will go home. Duh. Not like breaking anything would like make him love me? The reasoning of people like this does not make sense at all. I think they are really conceited, even narcissistic.