I know this old but I couldn't resist.
I have been a military spouse for over 10 years, with 3 wonderful kids, and WE are avid gamers. Seriously my house is a gamer heaven. Does that make us bad parents or bad spouses? Nope. We keep our time on games limited to ONLY when the kids are asleep (naptime and nighttime). We also keep Friday nights open for date night. Love fridays.
Being Military you can call his First Sargent if enlisted. And They will make him man up. If he is an officer Call his CO. The biggest problem you will have is that if you use the system to make him do the right thing it can cause other problems. Being a military dependant you and your children are entitled to certain benefits
Second of all, this quoted post is screwed up. You DO realize that this would get him put on guard duty (24 hr duty), put a letter in his file (so he will have issues getting promoted), and cause a lot more trouble for him then is needed? I can't list everything that would happen, because I don't purposely try to destroy my HUSBAND'S career. The military shouldn't be getting involved in marital problems. It's a JOB.
My husband is an officer and has to deal with whiney wives all the time. Do you realize how annoying that is to wives like me? My husband is running off trying to fix YOUR marriage, because YOU complained? Man, seriously, why get the officers involved in something that's NONE of their business. This is YOUR marriage, it's NOT theirs! They just want to do their job, and that doesn't include babysitting your marriage.
When he becomes VIOLENT or ABUSIVE that's when you should be reporting it to an officer or higher-up. Not something like "wahh I didn't get off my lazy butt and look/ask how to get an id by myself". Please. This is SMALL potatoes. When he BEATS you, that's when you should report it.
I hope you realize this post/idea should be a LAST - VERY last - resort.
You ARE entitled to benefits, but they come immediately out of his pay (he's not even really required to fill out much paper work after he gets married for them to start docking his pay to pay for them - which he does the day after he gets married, it's required). Your benefits do vary. You WILL need him to get you on base to get an id. The paperwork isn't that difficult, and if worse comes to worse you CAN get a TEMP PASS to get on base in order to get your own id without his help. Then you wait in line, fill out some paperwork, and whalaa you've an id...granted it takes hours waiting in line.
I got one for my mother when my husband did his 2nd tour fairly easily, and without my hubby's help.
You CAN however call Tricare and have them send you a card in the mail, so you can get free benefits off-post. You do NOT need to go to a post hospital in order to give birth or even get proper healthcare. Just call them to get another card sent out, and start calling around to see who accepts your insurance.
There is also free therapy, couples and otherwise. If he is REALLY is an addict, he can go off-post (so it's not in his file that he went) and see a therapist about his porn issues or marital issues.
Please look more into your new military life. It is a big deal to be a military spouse, and as such you're mainly required to take care of yourself (and kids) by yourself just in case he is deployed. Mine did 3 tours, and I had a rude awakening the first tour. Learned things fast then. It's a good idea that YOU do the same. My husband is NOT my babysitter. I can take care of myself.
If you don't like the dog, lock it out. If he *****es tell him to let the dog in himself and watch it then. If he does let the dog in and doesn't watch it, let it out again (rinse and repeat, he'll learn). You are letting him treat you like trash and are whining about it. This is YOUR fault for not puttin your foot down. Put it down already!!! (You shouldda seen the argument hubs and I had about the toilet seat, I definately won that one. ;P) You need to stand up for yourself and kids more, as well as learn to take care of yourself. This isn't mommy and daddy's house anymore, this is YOURS.
Also, as such avid gamers, my husband and I both know INSTANTLY when someone else is (including each other). You KNEW before you were married that he was a gamer, don't try to act surprised now. Either accept it, or discuss it with him. If discussing it doesn't work, get a divorce if you suddenly can't live with it. There ARE key indicators when people are gamers, it doesn't just sneak up on you.
PS. Get the hell off the floor. Any woman that willingly sleeps on the floor because of whatever reason while pregnant, is stupid. You say you are worried about yourself and your kids, yet you willingly put yourself in a position like that just to "prove a point", "have a reason to cry", or to get his "attention. Childish.