Re: Love Must Be Tough
UPDATE: I'm still on my tough approach. This week I've done pretty well. I'm my normal self, except I am not trying to touch or hang onto my husband. When I say I have a meeting, I don't elaborate. This is to make him wonder....hmmm, what is she up to.
He found a furnished apartment on a monthly basis. He will move out this Friday. Last night, we had a long talk about the conditions of our separation. How we will relate communication wise, child wise, financial wise, etc.
I think he was suprised at my hard stance on little to no communication between us. I stated that this is like a trial divorce. In my mind, I have to risk this in order to slap him in the face with reality.
We agreed that in a month from his moving out, we will evaluate as to how things are going.
Funny thing his "cage" door is open and now he is thinking "is this what I really want." Last night, for the first time since Oct. he was agressive sexually and wanted to have sex (even kiss). This is significant. Guess wha??!!! I told him that I didnt' want to. I was as kind and sweet as I could be. Hmmmmmmmm. I suprised myself.
If we would have had sex last night, he would have thought I was the same ole me...willing to take anything. I am no longer the chasee.