Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Southeast of Disorder
Re: Alimony and Child Support in NC
You will only pay support in NC for your children who are under 18 which is one child. You will be paying VERY HIGH alimony, probably for life because your marriage is over 20 years and your wife right now can't support herself at the marital standard of living.
Will it break you financially if you make over 100K, probably not but it will hurt. You need an attorney prior to separation. The best thing you can do is try to come to an agreement but talk to a lawyer that practices family law in your county who can tell you how the judges there will rule.
Once you separate, you will pay her alimony pendente lite until your divorce is final. The final amount will either be set by you by agreement or by the judge. I would offer her some support until she can become self sufficient and then would cut it off. Alimony is theft and lifetime alimony is a blight that society has not eliminated yet.
On custody, there is no reason why you and your wife can't share custody of your 15 year old. The other 2 are adults and are not up for discussion. The more time you spend with your 15 year old, the less you pay in child support. Make sure whatever you do is in your child's best interest. The money is never a consideration when it comes to a child.