Originally Posted by BlindsidedinVA
I just don't know if she wants to as well and I don't know if a separation will change her mind one way or another.
You're not really processing it Blindsided which is common and understandable but I`ll tell you again...
She doesn't want a separation to work out how she feels about your relationship.
She's not concerned with "changing her mind" about you.
She wants some room to carry on her affair.
I don't care if he's 10 thousand miles away from her she will carry it on in whatever fashion she can and it'll be much easier with 0 repercussions if she can do so without you looking over her shoulder.
I could be wrong but the odds are with me in a big way.
A separation will put you in a weaker position to sway her mind towards you.
If she starts spending more stress free happy time with her AP you're going to have a nearly impossible job of getting her back.
When she's with him or talking to him it's all lovey and sexy and sweet.
This is attractive.
When she's with you it's stressful and forces her to face her own failures.
This is unattractive.
You have got to keep her away from him as much as possible or you'll lose her.