My husband and I have been married 2 1/2 years. We have two small children. He works full time and I stay home with our girls.
We fell in love fast and hard when we met. He was an amazing person who would do anything for me and our oldest daughter (she came before we were married). Things changed once we got married. He has become increasingly lazy and really needs to grow up. He will ignore the kids and I and play video games or watch cartoons for hours on end. He rarely cooks or cleans but complains when the house is a mess or there's no food on the table.
He will let the kids make a huge mess and do whatever they want and deal with it later (or not all...hey that's what mommy is for)
He constantly makes excuses why he cannot help out around the house. Like tonight...he has a cast on one of his legs so he has been using the rolling computer chair to get around the house (lol) and I asked him if he could SIT IN FRONT OF THE DISHWASHER AND UNLOAD IT ONTO THE COUNTER. Not that hard, right? He immediately said it was time for him to put his leg up and went and laid on the couch.
We are in a lot of financial trouble with payday loans and such (almost everything in his name) and I know that is what is causing a lot of the stress right now. It sounds sad but I do not think I am in love with him anymore. He gave me two beautiful daughters so I love him as their father, but I have no sexual attraction to him anymore and have no desire to kiss or hold hands. Sometimes I think about leaving him and letting him deal with his own problems as I am the one to do all of the worrying financially every month. I make the paycheques stretch and budget to try and keep everyone off of our backs every month.
I am so frustrated and I know I am depressed. I am constantly feeling guilty as I know I sometimes take my frustration or on our kids by being short with them sometimes when they don't deserve it.
I have no one to talk to. I just really need someone to give me advice. Md maybe someone is feeling the way I feel right now.
We fell in love fast and hard when we met. He was an amazing person who would do anything for me and our oldest daughter (she came before we were married). Things changed once we got married. He has become increasingly lazy and really needs to grow up. He will ignore the kids and I and play video games or watch cartoons for hours on end. He rarely cooks or cleans but complains when the house is a mess or there's no food on the table.
He will let the kids make a huge mess and do whatever they want and deal with it later (or not all...hey that's what mommy is for)
He constantly makes excuses why he cannot help out around the house. Like tonight...he has a cast on one of his legs so he has been using the rolling computer chair to get around the house (lol) and I asked him if he could SIT IN FRONT OF THE DISHWASHER AND UNLOAD IT ONTO THE COUNTER. Not that hard, right? He immediately said it was time for him to put his leg up and went and laid on the couch.
We are in a lot of financial trouble with payday loans and such (almost everything in his name) and I know that is what is causing a lot of the stress right now. It sounds sad but I do not think I am in love with him anymore. He gave me two beautiful daughters so I love him as their father, but I have no sexual attraction to him anymore and have no desire to kiss or hold hands. Sometimes I think about leaving him and letting him deal with his own problems as I am the one to do all of the worrying financially every month. I make the paycheques stretch and budget to try and keep everyone off of our backs every month.
I am so frustrated and I know I am depressed. I am constantly feeling guilty as I know I sometimes take my frustration or on our kids by being short with them sometimes when they don't deserve it.
I have no one to talk to. I just really need someone to give me advice. Md maybe someone is feeling the way I feel right now.