02-13-2008, 11:19 AM
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Temporary Resident of Earth Lord Only Knows Where Next
| | Re: He wants out, I don't (longwinded)
Jenksie, so sorry to hear this. I know it is difficult for you.
You mentioned he wanted to go to counseling for help for four years. What were the problems? Why did he want to go? I assume then, that you weren’t willing to go. Why not?
You are at the start of a potentially very long journey. Prepare yourself for this. If he has daily contact with her this will be difficult. I would suggest you look at what your current problems in the marriage are and take a look at what you can both do to address them. Also, please keep your cool and have faith in yourself. You will need a steady hand and time before you even start to see improvements. It will take time. Since it will be several months before he will be able to leave, use that time to try and get to the root problems of the relationship. Try and convince him to look at counseling. If he won’t go, consider it for yourself. Take a firm grip on yourself and have hope and faith that things can get better. They can, but it won’t happen overnight. Take care & Bless.