After separation are you happy or just coping? Are you still considering divorce? Did separation help your marriage or hurt. I give you a little back ground on my story.
I've know my husband since we were 15 years old. We got married almost 8 yrs ago. We always had our ups in downs, break ups, and of course seem to get back together. Despite our crazy relationship I guess love was always on our side. After we got married we decided to start a family. Well after a year of trying we dealt with infertility issues. So after countless months of trying to fix the problem nothing worked. We decided to try Invitro. On the 1st try we got pregnant & had a baby boy who is now 3. Fasting forwarding it to present my husband told me about a year and half ago he was unhappy. His been unhappy for year. His unhappiness start when our infertility started. He proceed to tell me our relationship was stale, old, not fun, and just was not into it. Well 3 months ago I find out he was having a affair for a year in a half. He said he fell in love with her, and wanted to be with her, they are sooo compatible together, they are like soul mates! i felt like i was listening to a teenager. Needless to say the woman he was having a affair with was suppose to leave her husband but never did. My husband still once to leave because his heart is not there anymore. Nothing is the same & he don't think we can get it back. I told him I could not go go through with divorce so we decided to separation. I guess our ultimate goal is divorce. I guessing I'm asking for any advice I can at this time.
I've know my husband since we were 15 years old. We got married almost 8 yrs ago. We always had our ups in downs, break ups, and of course seem to get back together. Despite our crazy relationship I guess love was always on our side. After we got married we decided to start a family. Well after a year of trying we dealt with infertility issues. So after countless months of trying to fix the problem nothing worked. We decided to try Invitro. On the 1st try we got pregnant & had a baby boy who is now 3. Fasting forwarding it to present my husband told me about a year and half ago he was unhappy. His been unhappy for year. His unhappiness start when our infertility started. He proceed to tell me our relationship was stale, old, not fun, and just was not into it. Well 3 months ago I find out he was having a affair for a year in a half. He said he fell in love with her, and wanted to be with her, they are sooo compatible together, they are like soul mates! i felt like i was listening to a teenager. Needless to say the woman he was having a affair with was suppose to leave her husband but never did. My husband still once to leave because his heart is not there anymore. Nothing is the same & he don't think we can get it back. I told him I could not go go through with divorce so we decided to separation. I guess our ultimate goal is divorce. I guessing I'm asking for any advice I can at this time.