He has Asperger's, his response is blunted. Right now, he spends time with his dad and the OW. She makes herself popular. Dealing with Asperger's, ADHD, and other behavioral issues also put a strain on the marriage, that the ex did not want to deal with. I was quasi a single parent, even while still married. I was a PITA, but my son thanks me now, as he is sucessful in college. Between deading with him, IEPs, teachers and principals, going to school, going to work, and working hard to revigorate the marriage (I had no idea ex had checked out already), I became frustrated about carrying all the load alone. At one point I begged to please work with me, as I don't feel like I have a spouse, and I feel like it's making me physically ill to feel left hanging all the time. He went into his typical silent mode, and not even then did he acknowledge that he had already moved in with another woman. He continued to let me dangle, suffer, and nag. Then planned a cruise with me, and I had hopes that we were on the up and up. Then I found out about his affair, and the rug slipped out from underneath me. This bastard let me struggle, to continue his way in secret, and realized that he has absolutely no concern for me. 25 years, wasted.