turnera

I'm so sorry. Offer your son a stable place to live and be. It's the best you can do.

mwdbuckeye

We have both been attending Church the past several weeks - of course seperately. She is going with a guy "friend" and of course Im going alone. She has basically turned the entire thing over to God and the people at the church. She basically only hangs out with them and talks to them on the phone. She did of course move back in last Monday. I of course got my hopes up a little and of course she smacked them down. She came home for our Son. She wants to get the taxes done asap to use the money to get her own place and possibly afford the divorce. She says God is in control and she is following his will. His will is that she is on a different path and Im not part of it. After 25 years a different path. Do we not have a way to nudge this path a little closer to my path.

turnera

Have you visited this church and talked to the Pastor and the group of elders and told them what she's doing?

mwdbuckeye

I have thought about it. I am not sure about the outcome. Would I be sinning. The guy that she is going to church there with is a long time parishener. Am I opening up a can of worms

turnera

What? How is telling the TRUTH a sin?

The leaders of that church are THERE to guide their people to live a sin-FREE life. Talking to them and asking for help is giving them an opportunity to do just that.

Affaircare

Oh brother I'm sorry but I love it when disloyal spouses try this one because it's so foolish it's nearly humorous!

My dear brother, I can guarantee you it is NOT God's will for your wife to attend church with another man and use the tax money to fund a divorce. God clearly says in many verses that He hates divorce and He hates a husband who covers his household with violence (Malachi) and that when a husband and wife separate it should be for a season and they should devote themselves to prayer and then come back together (1 Cor. 7:5) Further, if they do separate, that she is to remain unmarried or reconcile with her husband (1 Cor. 7:10-11). Finally the apostle Paul is really clear: "Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife." (1 Cor. 7:27)

If your disloyal spouse is claiming it's God's will, I'm sorry but that is just plain incorrect. God's will is for us to not be tempted by the flesh and to remain together, and He does give us guidelines for when it's appropriate to divorce (like sexual immorality or violence). So don't even listen--dismiss that as the foolishness it is. It is NOT God's will for "your paths to go in separate directions"--that is just her purely selfish way for saying "I want my path to go away from yours."

Based on the issues you have described though I want to offer some wise counsel to you, dear brother. If your spouse has determined in her heart to go, you may not be able to stop her. If that is the case, I would encourage you to do all you can to save the marriage yet if she goes I believe some other verses in 1 Cor. 7 would apply here (verse 15): "...if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace."

There is no dishonor in trying to save your marriage and doing your best to honor your vows and covenant, but if she absolutely will not, take some time to recover knowing that God has called you to peace.

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NightOwl

To be frank, you need therapy if you are more concerned with sinning (by telling the truth, no less) than with protecting yourself and your children. It strikes me that you have huge guilt issues and a misunderstanding of religion.