Re: Best way to divorce my wife...
BD, there is a lot of advice here that reflects different trends.
1) the general TAM hard line (expose and seek moral satisfaction). This is often ignored by the BS because of weakness. In such cases, the BS pays an even higher price to resolve the collapsed marriage. However, you are not vacillating over reconciliation of lost love. So, you do not fit the paralyzed BS paradigm.
2) There are several posts that urge exploitation of the WW's delusional believe in the affair's future. The may work but only if the OM keeps the affair alive. There is no guarantee that this will happen. Once you file for divorce, the OM may dump her and she may try to renegotiate long before it becomes final.
There is no foolproof approach.
That said there seems no reason to seek a confession during MC if that is for psychological satisfaction. Will it make her pliant in divorce negotiations?
re: your lawyer
Sounds like a wuss who doesn't know the law that well.
I PM'd Eric and asked him to update his thread. It would be interesting to know how it worked out.
Doesn't she need to know? This is moral dilemma. You are seeking to maximize your outcome but denying her the same opportunity. Note she is very vulnerable.
Your wife might be able to file a suit against her employer for sexual harassment. Depends on how brassy she is. Her boss ought to get fired but she is not a certain victim.
Life is not simple. The simple approaches sometimes work great. But you need to judge your chances.
Last edited by LongWalk; 08-10-2013 at 12:22 PM.