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post #1141 of 1162 (permalink) Old 01-08-2017, 10:11 PM
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How is your ex's life today, BetrayedDad? Has she stopped dropping hints that she wants to get back together with you?

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How is your ex's life today, BetrayedDad? Has she stopped dropping hints that she wants to get back together with you?
Yes. She has accepted it for quite some time now.

She's still in the same crap apartment she moved into when she left. She can't afford anything more on her income anyway.

Still has the same boyfriend whose 15 yrs younger than her since OM dumped her 3 years ago surprisingly. I can only assume he's a user.

Far as I can tell, he moved in for financial reasons. He seems broke too. My kids like him so I'd rather it be him then some a$$hole I suppose.

She looks older, has definitely gained 20-30 lbs, always wears makeup now (didn't before) and generally continues to pretend she's happy.

I'm pretty curt with her. Only dealing with her when absolutely necessary. My girlfriend says I should be nicer to her. Meh.... I don't think so.

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Yes. She has accepted it for quite some time now.

She's still in the same crap apartment she moved into when she left. She can't afford anything more on her income anyway.

Still has the same boyfriend whose 15 yrs younger than her since OM dumped her 3 years ago surprisingly. I can only assume he's a user.

Far as I can tell, he moved in for financial reasons. He seems broke too. My kids like him so I'd rather it be him then some a$$hole I suppose.

She's looks older, has definitely gained 20-30 lbs, always wears makeup now (didn't before) and generally continues to pretend she's happy.

I'm pretty curt with her. Only dealing with her when absolutely necessary. My girlfriend says I should be nicer to her. Meh.... I don't think so.
Being younger he will eventually lose interest in her. Unless he wants a mother. She must be playing the role. Two wounded rabbits in a warren.
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I guess I never read through your thread BD. Glad it got bumped. Good to see another good dad out there doing well.

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I remember reading yours back in '15..... you kicked arse....

We leave threads here for a reason.... as did mine....

My stories are still here to read...... from a guy who long died......

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Yes. She has accepted it for quite some time now.

She's still in the same crap apartment she moved into when she left. She can't afford anything more on her income anyway.

Still has the same boyfriend whose 15 yrs younger than her since OM dumped her 3 years ago surprisingly. I can only assume he's a user.

Far as I can tell, he moved in for financial reasons. He seems broke too. My kids like him so I'd rather it be him then some a$$hole I suppose.

She looks older, has definitely gained 20-30 lbs, always wears makeup now (didn't before) and generally continues to pretend she's happy.

I'm pretty curt with her. Only dealing with her when absolutely necessary. My girlfriend says I should be nicer to her. Meh.... I don't think so.
Good for you. I assume the gf knows about your ex's infidelity and if she (the gf) ever cheats, you'd dump her, too.
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Good for you. I assume the gf knows about your ex's infidelity
Yes, we've been dating a year now and it was a question she had very early on. It's hard not to ask, sooooo why did you get divorced?

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and if she (the gf) ever cheats, you'd dump her, too.
She's well aware of my absolute zero tolerance policy. I think she realizes if I'm willing to divorce over it, then dumping a cheating girlfriend would be a cake walk.

She seems like a really great girl. I haven't seen a single red flag and she seems crazy into me. I'd be floored if she did at this juncture.

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15 years.... WOW! How old are they? Yes I dated women 15-20 years older than me but I was in my early-mid 20s.

I just liked the maturity, no BS games, appreciated the little things... and yes, the constant sex was great too!

Heck my XW was seven years older than me. The last thing I needed was an older woman to play my mother.....

LOL my own mom was always into my schit enough.... but, that's what moms do I guess. If that guy is over 30,

then he is wanting a mother and.... "easy access" sex.

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15 years.... WOW! How old are they? Yes I dated women 15-20 years older than me but I was in my early-mid 20s.

I just liked the maturity, no BS games, appreciated the little things... and yes, the constant sex was great too!

Heck my XW was seven years older than me. The last thing I needed was an older woman to play my mother.....

LOL my own mom was always into my schit enough.... but, that's what moms do I guess. If that guy is over 30,

then he is wanting a mother and.... "easy access" sex.
She's in her early 40s and he's in his late 20s. I'm not seeing the appeal.

Idk, I spent a decade with the woman and I'd say she was pretty frigid when it came to sex.

She might be putting out to keep him around but leopards don't change their spots.

Eventually she'll tire of the sharade. Personally, I'd rather they keep dating for as LONG as possible.

The distraction keeps her out of my business. I'm actually better off financially since she left.

I'd like to avoid court until the kids are 18 or close to it. Child support reassessments are always on the table.

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No schit! Some females throw it out until they snare you and follow that up with "if you do xxxx,

I will give yyyyy." Those rarely end well. But she is his problem now, NOT yours.

In a way, the poor schit is helping you........


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How does your current GF rate in the sex department compared to your ex?
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In a way, the poor schit is helping you........
I forget that sometimes because obviously I'd love to see her just lay down and rot.

But this is 100% true. Doing me a favor, poor bastard.

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How does your current GF rate in the sex department compared to your ex?
Put it this way.... Every girl I have slept with since my ex has been WAY better. She was nothing special.

Obviously, different strengths and weaknesses in bed but just ALL so eager to have sex.

And maybe you all will think I'm crazy but I've told my current and ex girlfriend the same thing.

"I'm very HD and I need a lot of sex, I have no problem moving on if at any point that's an issue for you."

And I 100% mean it. Being single has taught me one thing. Too many women out there all to eager to get laid.

Why the hell would I ever settle for crumbs again in a relationship when I can eat steak all the time?

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I forget that sometimes because obviously I'd love to see her just lay down and rot.

But this is 100% true. Doing me a favor, poor bastard.



Put it this way.... Every girl I have slept with since my ex has been WAY better. She was nothing special.

Obviously, different strengths and weaknesses in bed but just ALL so eager to have sex.

And maybe you all will think I'm crazy but I've told my current and ex girlfriend the same thing.

"I'm very HD and I need a lot of sex, I have no problem moving on if at any point that's an issue for you."

And I 100% mean it. Being single has taught me one thing. Too many women out there all to eager to get laid.

Why the hell would I ever settle for crumbs again in a relationship when I can eat steak all the time?

Steak is great.... Just try not to make it all about sex. I know it obviously wasn't with your ex. She burned you. I know. She is a biotch... But i feel you are now emotionally more caught up in fulfilling a sex drive rather than a real nurturing LONG LASTING relationship. That is all i am getting from your last recent posts.

But I'm so glad its been better in your life divorced. YOU DESERVE IT.
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Egh schit....... he got banned. Hope it's a short one.....

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Steak is great.... Just try not to make it all about sex. I know it obviously wasn't with your ex. She burned you. I know. She is a biotch... But i feel you are now emotionally more caught up in fulfilling a sex drive rather than a real nurturing LONG LASTING relationship. That is all i am getting from your last recent posts.

But I'm so glad its been better in your life divorced. YOU DESERVE IT.
I recently read through this whole thread for the first time. It was interesting to read Betrayed Dad's whole story. I was very touched by his early posts and how he really tried to act with dignity through this whole sh*t storm. I'm also very happy for him that he got out and is such a much better place.

I don't think Betrayed Dad is saying that it is "all about sex". He's just saying that any good relationship for him will always included a good sex life. That there is no reason to go forward with any potential partner if that part is missing.

But he's also learned, this isn't really a problem. Women want sex, a significant number of us also expect a good sex life as part of a good relationship, and it isn't that hard to find this if you are forthright about your expectations.

I agree with him that there's absolutely no reason to pursue someone if they don't understand and agree that great sex is a minimum requirement to be with him....and she should feel this for herself, too. Plenty of us do.

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