Why and How?

RWB · 02-07-2010, 11:24 AM

I was cheated on by my wife for 6 years with an admitted to 3 different men. Do you ever really know the truth. When I found out 6 months ago about the last affair, I was hit with a gift of clarity. I knew that she was lying. It took almost a week for her to tell me what she saw as the truth. The betrayed not only needs to know the truth, you have the right. When the cheater refuses to tell or explain the details it is just another from of deceit. Honesty is the only path that will restore any level of truth. Once she was busted. I busted all parties involved over the past 6 years. Oh I know some think it was cruel. NO! it is honesty. Cheaters only stop by seeing the reality of what they cause.

turnera · 02-07-2010, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by christmaslady

Then when we got so drained etc., we made the point that we are going to pay someone to listen to us etc; but none of that means anything if we can't even communicate amongst ourselves. We need to learn to communicate together before we even get anyone else involved to try to help fix us. I think we have determined if we can't do that much, then the problem is way bigger than counselling and counselling would only be a bandaid...

You aren't understanding what a counselor can do. Or at least, what Dr Harley can do. He doesn't waste time on stuff like that. He finds out your situation, and then tells YOU what you should be doing to fix it. Best $200 you'll ever spend, IMO.