Some posters on here have expressed that they wish they had never known about the A. What do you think? Should you confess it? How long afterwards is too long?
What is the best way to confess it? What's the best way to respond?
Tell me your opinions, experiences, scenarios, etc. Have at it.
Years ago before marriage while me and the missus were still just bf/gf I had a one-night-stand in a party after the ridicolous disagreements and fights I had with her. I was incredibly drunk and to be honest I can't really remember much...
Ne ways, I've regretted it the next morning but too late - another girl who liked me at the party felt the NEED to get involved and tell the missus, I lied to her... but too bad, enough witnesses, and I had to confess. That destroyed our trust - and to this day has not even been fully repaired.
It was also a real challenge winning her back two years later, she is one of those "I'm this and that, so I deserve this and that" type of women. But one thing led to another, yet even then we only ended up physically involved our second time through. Until the baby bells rang... and... yeah, all hell broke loose.
We have always loved each other but this particular incident which shouldn't have happened and would NEVER ever happen again (I also can't drink anymore since I now have pancreatitis from excessive drinking) still haunts us. Looking back, it would have been better not for her to know.
It's enough that I have to put up with the guilt of what I did, she doesn't deserve to have to suffer it too, but she's been suffering it for years. Sometimes it's best not to know - ignorance is bliss yes? As long as it doesn't EVER happen again.