Re: Should you confess a one-night stand to your spouse?
that is a tough one. What would you gain from telling him? What is the cost? Can you live with not telling him?
I think its better to be told than to find out. On one hand, Im not sure if it is better to know something that may have no significance to your life right now. On the other, by not telling him you are taking away his choices/rights.
My husband lied to me for years, he took away all my choices and now 2 kids later, things are complicated. But at the end of the day... when he finally asked me "do you really want to know the truth? It may change your life" and I said "yes, Id rather live in a painful reality than beautiful illusion, I rather the truth than a lie, no matter the cost ". I have reconsidered this decision many times, because what he told me changed my life forever and there is no going back to what was before.
In hindsight, though I needed to know though, because it was affecting everything. THe price of pain was worth the opportunity for change. But in your situation, I just cant see any opportunity for gain...
Im leaning towards... Live your lives together, be happy.... sometimes its true that what you dont know cant hurt you.