Re: Steps to stop an affair
OW's H called me and exposed the relationship. Once I was able to get a grip....I confronted HIM, I confronted HER, and called in my H's best friend since childhood...who i later found out already knew about the EA, but was in shock to hear that if things did not stop IMMEDIATELY that I would be throwing my H out into the street and not looking back (this was surprising enough that he called my H and informed him he believed me to be more than serious about divorcing him and what a dumbass he would be to let that happen.)
So, while I didn't expose the situation to EVERYONE...I exposed it to the RIGHT ones...
this all took place in Oct.... so far so good.... no more contact with the OW and he is taking major steps to prove he is where he wants to be. Still struggling to get him to take complete ownership of the affair, but I suppose that will come in time. And, I have to close the door on the EA in MY mind...something rather difficult for me.
Reconnecting our relationship and getting our life back on track has started and I feel we are moving forward....maybe not outta the jungle yet...but def moving towards the light!