And the odds if you don't expose are that (1) he will LEAVE you for that other woman or (2) he will CONTINUE to have more and more affairs, because you condone it by accepting it.
Either way, YOUR life is ruined. But hey! at least your husband (or exhusband) looks good to everyone.
The whole idea of exposure is to STOP
the affair. When a spouse cheats they put at risk the entirety of the marriage. The money, kids, house, job, family respect, BS's health...ect. This is not a time for the BS to worry about how the waywards career or anything like that....it is a time for decisive action.
Yes "internal" problems should be handled in private....but an affair is not an internal problem. An affair involves a third party...and if your marriage is to have any chance at survival...the third party needs to be routed out. The MOST
effective way this is done is through exposure.
The more I read....the more I study the subject of affair survival...the more I find this to be true. It should be a BS's rule.
In fact, you could almost sum up the entirety of the affair survival subject in 5 rules:
1. Expose the affair and ask for support.
2. Demand 100% no-contact
3. Take care of yourself.
4. Watch & wait
5. If #2 is not achieved...file for D.