Originally Posted by strugglinghusband View Post
if thier boss found out, one or both would more than likely be fired (she told me that) and the wife would be humilated in our small town, never would get a job as good as she has now.. as for his wife,still on the fence about that one, who knows how she would react, maybe she would take it to thier work? but deep down i know I should, I'm pretty sure he told her that i may be contacting her the jealous/crazy husband...
well OMW needs to know first and foremost, a few reasons...
1) most importantly, she deserves to know. She is operating in her marriage without all of the information. It is likely she is seeing her marriage crumble and is blaming herself and desperately trying to do things to correct it and just spinning her wheels.
also, exposing the affair in most cases helps you get your wife back. why?
2) It is an additional consequence that she now can see to help her realize what an awful sh!tty thing she's done. When she sees the fall out of his exposure to his wife and what she has done to her.
3) exposing the affair takes the excitement out of it, it helps diminish that hold it has over them when it is exposed in the light of day
4) his wife may actually already know and may be able to provide you with more details that your wife hasn't told you yet, if she doesn't know then she's an extra pair of eyes
5) the OM is likely to try to throw your wife under the bus to protect himself, if she sees this she will come out of the fog as she won't like that