Re: Steps to stop an affair
Wow, after all of the late nights searching for anything that could help, I finally come across this site/post. My wife has been having an affair for over a year, which has taken quite a toll on me. It has been mostly long distance until the OM moved to our state earlier is month to be with her. She actually moved out in May and only recently filed for divorce. Although I have not exposed the affair except to two of my closest friends seeking advice from them, she has told her sister and a few of her friends. Her sister and a couple of her friends have tried to convince her to end it, but with no luck. The OM has even recently moved in with her.
I admit to having made some of the mistakes in dealing with this that many here have cautioned about, but I am now at the point of cutting off all contact except that which has to do with our son our our divorce proceedings. The thing is...I know that she realizes that what she s doing is a mistake and that she misses her "married life". I have given her the stipulation of cutting off all contact with the OM now and forever, but just like any addiction, she cannot. I've told her that I'll be moving forward with proceedings unless and until that happens.
I still love her and want to do anything and everything to save our marriage, and I feel that we still have a chance. My question is what else I can do? Her parents, for example, know that we are in proceedings, but they are unaware of the affair. Should I expose it to them and some of her other family members who still do not know? I've never confronted the OM either. Should I confront him (via email) as well, or have I let this go on for far too long?