The Scorpion and the Frog
Self destruction - "Its my Nature", said the Scorpion...
Since we are trading stories: Daze Village Uprising
Two Chinese officers were leading workers/soldiers up north to defend someplace. There were bad rains and flooding and they got stuck in this one province for quite a while.
So, one guy asks the other guy: "What is the punishment for being late to an assignment?"
"Death." answered the other.
"What is the punishment for rebelling against the Emperor?" the first officer asks again.
"Death." he answered again.
"Well, guess what? We're late." the first officer stated.
Absolutism has it's own consequences. So yeah, to a certain degree, the husband gets a small amount of blame for shutting down communication and discussion. That is the whole point of a no win situation.
But...you need to listen to what you are saying with that fable:
Waywards should never try to Reconcile.
Their spouses should never try to Reconcile despite statistical evidence that the majority of cases of infidelity actually stick together.
What about the kids? We don't know what causes infidelity, so the kids are fruit of the poisonous vine either through genetics or teaching from the duplicitous wayward. Are you going to warn the paramours of your children away since they probably have the cheating cooties?
How much do you really believe in determinism vs. free will?
I have lied once or twice in my life (Have you?)
I have stolen a thing or two in my life (Have you?)
I have even...sob...been drunk once or twice in my life (Have...I think you get the picture.)
Now, according to the Scorpion absolutist metric, I am a lying drunken thief and I shall be a lying drunken thief always and forever.
I don't want to believe these things about me. Do you want to believe them about yourself?
Now...I DO believe in scorpions. But I do not believe every bug that has stung me is a scorpion, unchanging and spiteful enough to kill just because without thought, reflection or remorse.