Re: What is the point of a NC Letter?
Matt, if YOU came to the conclusion it would help you, I understand but I see a lot of advice on the forum saying BS must insist on a NC letter and I don't know what this accomplishes.
It would seem this letter has to come from the WS when and if she feels it is necessary.
If I were. WS that truly wanted to reconcile, I think I would need some time to write this letter in my own time on my own terms. Maybe say, "it's over, and I am staying with my SO. I will send you a better explanation of what has happened in my life when I have my thoughts together.
In someways, I can see this being okay and mature and in some ways it seems like one last love letter that says, "you are still worth writing to". I don't think it would help me as a BS and I would always be suspect of my WS anyway.
It sounds like you needed to write one and you stuck to it and it helped.