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Married Man Sex Life Primer (AKA MMSLP) and you.

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#1 ·
Just started reading this book

I understand why everyone who read this book now says weightlifting and getting in shape is helpful.

I just started reading the book yesterday, I'm on page 79, part 6.10 ( no quick fix ).

For those that don't know
From what I am reading now and understand it talks about Alpha and Beta Traits and what to do, to improve those traits.

It also goes into a simple point rating system, like many guys and girls would say how do you rate that person on a 1 to 10..

Nutshell you have to be a higher point on the scale then your significant other. If your a higher point, then they want you. If your lower and don't look to improve your rating to be equal they will look some place else..

I would suggest you don't read it if your still crying over your ex and have no control. The first few chapters will definitely open up some old wounds and it can be tough for some. As an example the author mentions " I love you but not in love with you" and other comments how crying and begging making you weaker. For me it was like "Ugg, I shouldn't have done that"

But over all I honestly think there should be a thread on this book with suggestions related to the book as well.

But I see I need to start making a move to working out as I have some Alpha going but this is one I am lacking. Again just another trait in the Alpha column to check off.

I downloaded it to my Mac and my Iphone with the kindle app.
 
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#259 ·
I must have misread the sentence: "I want to know what meaningful changes I can make to ensure that you no longer have those feelings. I want you to be concrete and tell me exactly what you would like to see happen in the short and long term to help me be a man closer to your idea of the ideal."

It indicates to me that I should change so that she doesn't feel whatever it is that she feels. That's taking responsibility for her feelings at any given time - I don't see any good, and certainly not any maturing coming from that.

I normally respect and agree with your posts, so it seems to me I must be misunderstanding your position :)
 
#271 ·
Maybe it was a poor choice of words on my part, when writing "scripts" of conversations I try to take a neutral tone so that those scripts can be modified to suit the needs of a person wishing to follow them. The idea behind the words was to get her to give concrete examples, not generalized dissatisfaction, of what causes her to be "disgusted" with her partner. If she has to spend meaningful time thinking about the relationship, then come up with her own ideas for how things could be improved, then maybe she would realize that some of her ideas of the situation are overblown or unrealistic, and if she wanted things to improve she would have to change her outlook. Things like "you should be 5" taller" = unrealistic, while things like "put your dirty plate in the dishwasher" = doable.

Thank you for your kind words about the substance of my posts, I try to spend as little time as possible verbally masturbating, and as much time as possible writing useful/meaningful stuff. If my posts have managed to help even one person is some way, I feel like all my time invested in writing them was worth it.
 
#262 ·
Sorry to burst your man-bubbles guys but your thinking that you got "game" is just an illusion you have from the book(s) or other sources.

You can throw all the silly books in the trash now, this is the only information you will need. The silly book tricks won't work on intelligent women. They. Won't. Work. The best approach is to be yourself, not some learned behavior from a book. If you insist acting by some book you could aswell take a bible with you on your dates and start sitating Jesus to her...

The real "game" is the woman either chooses you or not. Whether you screw it up by your talking or actions might give you the impression it's your own doing. Your "game" doesn't matter if you can behave; the woman has chosen you already. This is why I'd suggest the gym rats, muscle guys and meat heads keep their mouths shut so they don't ruin their chances. Just smile and behave. The females doing the choosing is biological and can't be changed. You can try to manipulate it by some odd book behavior but in the end your true nature will push through and you'll get caught and it won't work.

Have a nice day. :)
 
#273 ·
Started reading this book on the advice of TAM members. I'm about halfway through it and so far it is an excellent read. Alot of great advice, much of it echoed by the people on this forum. The title is a bit misleading because I think even single people would benefit greatly from it. It's spot on, on a lot of different subjects. Kinda scary sometimes lol.

I also read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and didn't think it was nearly as good. It was ok but MMSLP 2011 is much better and a more enjoyable read.
 
#275 ·
MMSLP is useful for general marraige.

NMMNG is for a specific group of men and rather than nice, most men would perceive them as self-absorbed and precious. It is for the type of man that thinks other men are mean and inferior and gets their gf to stick up for them. There will be bits in there that are useful generally, but most men have to accept (and be thankful) that they are not the target audience.
 
#277 ·
It is a good read, although some things of merit are left open for disagreement. Online affairs challenge this, the sex rank so to speak loses it's influence in the digital world, it in turn graduates to an emotional need and when left unchecked grows wild with lust and becomes uncontrollable.

It also bears mentioning that this book applies to a healthy couple or people capable of a healthy relationship.

It's not a zombie, it's a reboot!!!
 
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#279 · (Edited)
If a guy would just work out, the rest just comes natural it seems.

There just too many fat folks nowadays. There's no excuse. Fat is an estrogen farm and estrogen in men brings on more fat. The cycle spirals out of control.

Real weightifting (free weights) melts fat off the body. That's half the problem with a guy. The book is correct on many levels, but is a beginning and not the answer. It guides him to being a better man.
 
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