04-14-2008, 03:53 PM
Join Date: Apr 2008
| | Should I feel guilty?
Should I feel guilty about an incident that happended with a sort of ex.
We met up for lunch and drinks after not seeing each other for 3 years. He lives in another city but we would maintain casual contact over the years. There has always been a connection between us and I knew this going into our recent meeting. I intially tried to keep the meeting very light - requesting a Sat afternoon catch up. As the time passed, we were having fun reminising and decided to go for a drink. That one drink reduced my inhibitions and decided that we could spend the rest of the evening/night together. Nothing happened physically, but there was alot of talk about when we were together and he stated that I was the biggest regret of his life. Although I never told him to stop, he did mention that he respects my marriage and he "wasn't going to do this", but he kept talking in these tones. In the end, we said our goodbyes and he is home and I have resumed life. I feel like I betrayed my husband for not stopping this kind of talk and for actually being excited by it and participating in it. I did not say at any point that I would leave my husband nor that we could be together, but I did actively discuss what went wrong with our "relationship". This lead to him being more upset and I think I actually felt a little good about the fact that he saw what he lost. I have made a decision to never see this old friend again as it is too tempting. How should I handle this guilt feeling that I have not respected my husband and in fact have been untruthful by omision.