As a rule, if you are doing or saying something that you would never tell your spouse about, it is wrong. In the context with another man or woman, it is an Affair. Period.
Doesn't charge you - and gets visibly excited?
Don't waste your husband's time. And don't waste my time. You are betraying your H with an inappropriate relationship that you can't tell him about. You are being untruthful.
Oh, by the way, did you notice that your H was going to the gym to meet his personal trainer (she used to work at Hooters) oh, and he needs to go in extra early and be late for dinner because she has him on this special workout that requires am and pm workouts. Oh, and by the way, did he mention that he needs to go to Vegas with her for the special conference where special clients get to demonstrate how fabulous their personal trainer's course is?
How exactly would you feel if it were your H in your shoes? Would you even care? Perhaps you should walk away from your marriage.
Affairs usually started as a friendship develops from a special willingness to care for each other. It will start off innocently such as genuinely interested in conversation, expressed admiration that is sincere or providing exciting companionship. All these traits are present in your current situation.
Your feeling of attraction to your trainer is the way your emotions encourage you to spend more time with him because he treat you well. Since he make you happy, your emotions associate with happiness and you want to be with him.
I may be wrong but from what I read, you have unmet emotional needs. - the lack of attention from your spouse.
Despite what everyone is advising you, you are in denial based on the answers you give.
You wrote a note to your trainer without your spouse's knowledge. That is lying. Please do not say that is privacy because privacy does not improve marriage. Honesty and openness does.
I hope you seriously look into the matter. Total separation is the right way to end it.
Get your spouse to exercise with you instead. Besides keeping fit, it is a good way for both of you to reconnect and re-bond.
I'm getting the sense that you (Marie) are trying to protect this relationship with your trainer and turn it into something it is not. First of all, by saying he is "someone special" you already blew it. Affair, affair, affair.
THEN, you seemed to get defensive when people called you out on basically getting tricked by a sly trainer into attending more sessions. I'm going to call BS and say that he does charge you. He wouldn't NOT charge you, get heated up with you, then angry when you try to advance the relationship. He clearly does not want a romantic relationship with you.
Break this off now, or you need to start talking to your husband about it. An affair is an affair. Emotional or physical, they compromise the marriage. And at 10 years, why go there? Drop the trainer or drop the marriage; but you can't have both.
ok his work is a personal trainer and he doesn't charge you mmmm don't you think that is weird don't your hubby think that is weird.. if you stay with him then you need to set limits for yourself and what the hell invite your hubby to at least one of your work outs... and don't send any more text that you would or could not show your hubby or that your trainer would or could not show his wife...
the trainer my of been pissed off because you crossed the line and wrote it down... once in writing and if his wife saw it that could of been the one thing that could of sent his wife away and well one step to getting caught...
you had a talk with him and said sorry for the text and again if you stay keep it on the up and up from this time forward...
even if you some feel you cheated yes to most this is cheating, we are human and make mistakes be glade it did not go further... learn and don't ever make that mistake again.
funny thing is...the guy doesn't charge me anything.
I think there's no harm in continuing ur workout program as he's not charging u for extra sessions So avail of this oppurtunity & all the other options as long as u can . Make sure nobody gets any suspicions about this.
Your a fool !!!! I had a friend who was a personal trainer... and he had at least a dozen women he was working all the time for sex. Thats WHY he was a personal trainer --- for the sex. Focus on your marriage and find another gym. And complain to the owners of this gym about this dude.
Your a fool !!!! I had a friend who was a personal trainer... and he had at least a dozen women he was working all the time for sex. Thats WHY he was a personal trainer --- for the sex. Focus on your marriage and find another gym. And complain to the owners of this gym about this dude.
lol, that's exactly what I thought. I grew up around men. I KNOW what men think, and I know how many of them are NOT in it for love, commitment, and respect, but a roll in the hay.
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