How many is TOO many...

WhidbeyWifey · 02-07-2010, 01:03 AM

ok so I have already posted in the Considering Divorce Forum so feel free to get a little more back story in the post "searching for answers" but heres the short version...

I've been married for 2 1/2 years with him for 10 years. In the last 8 years have been cheated on with 6 different women (that I am aware of) more then twice with each with the last time being literally the day after our 2 year wedding anniversary...why can't I leave? Should I leave? Should I just ignore it? I am living in constant fear of him still cheating....its consuming my life...WHAT DO I DO

Please note yes I cheated twice out of spite and revenge when I was VERY young and have not sense I thought we had moved past it all/

63Vino · 02-07-2010, 01:07 AM

let it go...

Well if you dont mind him stepping out on you? stay together.
If you dont like it leave. Its NOT going to change.

There is plenty of track record to indicate that.
You should focus on getting to healthy place alone.

wishing you all the happiness you can stand

TNgirl232 · 02-07-2010, 01:44 AM

As the old saying goes: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Fool me 6 times and I kick your butt to the curb.

You've both cheated (no matter the reason) - just face it, you aren't good with or for each other. Go find a man that will make you happy!

MrsInPain · 02-07-2010, 11:02 PM

I will have to agree with TNgirl232 and say that you two are NOT good for each other. There is a saying about your "one" being the person who encourages you to be the best version of yourself possible. It sounds like you have not been encouraged to flourish as a person.

BetrayedChris · 02-07-2010, 11:05 PM

I also agree with TNgirl.If you cheated and he cheated its obvious that you are both unhappy.