had the love that people spend there whole lives looking for a woman so smart, passionate,sweet, supportive and with the biggest heart you could possibly imagine. She would do or say anything to defend her family no matter what and all of this done in the most thoughtful of way's and you know what i did i took that wonderful life fulfilling thing and I worked my ass off to kill it oh and I did a bang up job too I almost destroyed her life by turning my back on her and leaving her and the children to deal with everything themselves and let me tell you also we live in mexico where life is just a little tougher than here for example gas for cooking and hot water has to be carried in big tanks and while she is dealing with all that and the pain of my doing what I did I searched desperately on the internet to replace her and then when I found the bottom of the pit I dug then and only then did i finally opened my eyes to what i had done but because i did this three (3) times in a row back to back within 4 months with the finally of telling her i don't love her and to leave me alone. So here I am I tried to go back to her but I feel the pain to great and the trust viciously killed. And again to show how wonderful a person she is she would not leave me alone while I go through the mourning process and made a wonderful attempt to take me back but the hurt is to deep. Even after all that she is kind to me and tells the children that i still love them and never said a bad word to them about me after all that. She is the example we should all strive to achieve The single greatest wife, mother and friend any man in this world would ever be blessed with there entire life.
This was very difficult to read and understand, but If I got this story right, you got up left your wife in Mexico alone 3 times to find another woman? To replace her? Do I have this correct? And then after you realize you can't find another woman, you come back and say, "OK, I'm ready to be a good husband in this marriage"? Please let me know if this is correct because this changes how I answer you.
If I'm correct about the above, then (I can't believe I'm going to say this), I don't blame her for hanging on to the OM. You have proven yourself not to be a husband at all. How can I blame her for wanting to have a man that she can rely on, in this case; The OM
. I'm sorry if this is harsh but if you want the OM gone, you are going to have to prove that you are there to stay and that she doesn't need him any more. That you are going to be a father and a husband. From your own story, your track record sucks.
Normally, I would say she needs to dump the OM, but that would be if you left once and them came back; but not 3 times! Dude, your lucky she's even talking to you.