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Old 08-27-2013, 05:18 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm in a rage, can't sleep. 6 months ago i told the OM if i ever catch him around wife wife till we are divorced..he'll end up in a body bag.
My wife and i are seperated but recently we started to communicate rly good again. But as it turned out, she hasen't been in our home for 6 months cause she's living with him..well for 6 months now.

I'm about to do something rly stupid, cause i know where they live. I've warned him 2 times and now i think it's time to give him the beating if his lifetime. I give a **** about my wife but the guy..well now it's rly personal.

I'm in a real rage right now, what should i do? Beat him up or forget that the guy keep's laughin at me?! And guess what..D day been today a year ago.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:28 PM   #2 (permalink)
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You're separated. Unless you're actively reconciling, what she does and with whom is none of your business any longer.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:32 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Do you really wish to spend years in prison? Think about it.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:35 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Times, it's not worth it. You could end up seriously injuring someone and going to jail. I always feel that Karma ends up giving people exactly what they deserve, even if you're not there to witness it.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:36 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Tell your WW that now that you know she has been living with that s**tag for the past 6 months she can f off.

Then go completely dark and never communicate with her again.

If you did not beat the h**l out of this POS at the beginning, I would not go out of my way to hunt him down now.

But I understand the thing between men on a personal level you are talking about.

I say if you ever run into this guy in public and he is c**ky or arrogant at all, through word, look, or deed towards you, then at that moment he needs to get the most basic and serious lesson of his life on why you do not f with another man's life.

Then you can send him home to your stupid ex a bloody mess.

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Old 08-27-2013, 05:40 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Forget the guy, they are probably both laughing at you. I know my stbxw and OM both laughed at me when I called OM and told him I would beat his a@@ next time I see him.

Keep in mind, You're wife lives with another man, show's where her loyalty lies.

I've been on the laughing end and it's no fun, in the end though neither one of them are worth jail time.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:40 PM   #7 (permalink)
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While I think its sad he is still seeing her if you two are talking I think you should leave him alone. You can run him off but if she isn't happy with you there will just be another. Its her that is choosing to see him.

If he swings the first punch, fine, but otherwise I would leave him alone. I wouldn't be trying to start one either or he can turn that against you. If you do and hurt him he might be the one that gets her sympathy.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:41 PM   #8 (permalink)
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While I think its sad he is still seeing her if you two are talking I think you should leave him alone. You can run him off but if she isn't happy with you there will just be another. Its her that is choosing to see him.

If he swings the first punch, fine, but otherwise I would leave him alone. I wouldn't be trying to start one either or he can turn that against you. If you do and hurt him he might be the one that gets her sympathy.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:42 PM   #9 (permalink)
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What state op? Might be great evidence of an affair if it matters.

If it does not matter. Get a younger hotter girlfriend. SUCCESS is the best revenge. A felony record is a win for them!
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The harshest punishment you can hand him is to let him fall into the pit he dug and let him have the cheating bat. Killing him gives him everlasting peace. He'll get over a beating in a few weeks. Being hooked up to her will be daily punishment that will only increase in severity. In a short time, the frustration, pain, and misery you are feeling, he will feel and it will probably be magnified. My ex cheated on me and left me and our kids for a neighbor "friend". A couple years later, he called me, crying his eyes out, blubbering about how she was cheating on him. He isn't taking anything that she isn't willfully and eagerly giving. If it wasn't him, it'd be some other guy. She's not worth spending a minute in the back seat of a patrol car and she's certainly not worth going to prison for.
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Old 08-27-2013, 05:46 PM   #11 (permalink)
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take the hint....SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU!

sorry but someone had to say it.

the best revenge.....Is living well.

move ahead with your life and be happy she not in it. and in the end you will have the last laugh.
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She's been living with him for six months whilst still married? She doesn't sound like much of a prize.

I'm sure he deserves everything you want to do to him, but... you're too good for this.

I'm truly sorry for what you're going through but neither of them are worth it. Embrace your freedom.
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Old 08-27-2013, 06:00 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Drive by and knock on the door. If she comes to the door, spit in her face and turn around and walk away. Hopefully he will follow you and you can get him to take the first swing. Then beat him down.
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Old 08-27-2013, 06:01 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Thx to all of you for replying so quickly! Well, i live in the EU (Austria to be exact) and even if i would beat him up in self defence..i would get not away with it.
If i do it, i'll end up in jail for sure. Or (if he would survive) the Pos would shut his mouth in shame and tell no one.
This guy is like a rat, once i turn my back he's crawlin back out a his hole.
And he keeps dancing on my nose cause he knows that i can't do anything. I'm 1,88 m tall former military he 1,70 m big mouthed half Italian.
First time i told him to stay away from her, i didn't know it was him, second time i knew it's him and he agreed to stay away. Call me an idiot, please.
This is no longer about my wife, it's purly about him. I've developed serious anger issues. Workin out every second day help's but at times i'm like nitrolycerin. And today being 1st D day anniv. rly add's to it. If they wouldn't be a 2 hour drive away, i would have gone F u ck ushima on his arse.
I know that i need to stay away or i end up in jail but it's almost unbearable.
I wanna thank all you guys for the input so far, it rly helped me. Thx!
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