Wife was having online affair
Back in the middle of December, I found out my wife had been talking to some man she knew from school on Facebook. They had been texting and phoning each other constantly for four weeks and had met once for coffee, with a 2nd meeting scuppered once I`d found out.
She had lied about it once confronted, she carried her phone with her everywhere, she kept clicking off Facebook everytime I walked past.
She was staying up later than usual to do her College Assignment,my wife likes her sleep and rarely stops up after me.
She disguised the mans name as a womans in her phone, I asked her outright as she had previously told me she wasn`t in love with me anymore, her feelings had changed.
I asked if there was anyone else but she said she didn`t have the time to be doing anything like that!
This was the most stressful and upsetting time I have ever experienced. I couldn`t sleep, didn`t eat, lost weight, put my job at risk.
My wife at first said it was attention as I didn`t give her any, she was flattered by the attention. We had got to a stage where we were stuck in a rut, hardly talking, no affection etc!
When I initially asked her to stop contacting him, she said she didn`t want to, she liked him. Eventually because I wanted her to, she stopped all contact. She told me she made a choice to work at our marriage over a friendship, only because I found out, I replied.
She was interested in this man, I asked if she fancied him etc, no she replied, just an interesting person, a friendship.
Weeks later after struggling through this, I would get depressed and upset, she would roll her eyes and huff and puff. I kept bringing up what had happened, she would say I was giving her all this hassle and grief over a friendship.
I have never been a possessive person in the slightest, I said to my wife if it was just a friendship, why did she hide and lie about everything rather than tell me she was in touch with an old school friend.
Two months later, we are getting on great, my wife is apologetic, hates the fact that I`ve been so upset, we are very loving, like we used to be.
I have told my wife it is difficult to forget, I have quiet days but am certainly better than I was.
What bothers me slightly is whether I can completely believe my wife, she tells me there is no contact and there hasn`t been for a while. He kept sending her messages on Facebook but she wouldn`t reply, I couldn`t understand why he would be sending messages, asking how she was etc after she had text him asking him to leave it so she could get on with her marriage.
I love my wife, if it had been the other way round, my wife says she would have left, she is quite a jealous person, I`ve been very understanding of the situation, I can see how she may have got into a situation on Facebook, still hurts very much though.