He pays for everything. I don't have a job, I don't have resources and I don't even have a place to go, not to mention the devastation this is going to have on my children. I need time to get my things together and least I can see my kids everyday while I do that. I will not resort to the level of throwing him out and acting like a selfish teenager as he is doing. I just want to be here for my kids for now. The day will come when I have the resources to move out, I can be patient.
I don't want to stay here. The house is well out of my means. If I made him leave there is no way I could afford to pay for it, nor would he have enough to support himself and keep the house going at the same time. If I left and didn't ask for anything, he could keep the house and the kids could stay here, the only place they have ever known. Revenge wouldn't make me feel any better. Moving on and being with someone who respects my needs as a human being is better than revenge.
Dear MariaSews, Before
you make any decisions about how to deal with your WH's continuing affair, speak to a qualified attorney
about your rights if you divorce him.
I don't recall if you've said where you live but, from the way you write, I presume you are American. The divorce laws in the U.S. are generally favorable from a SAHW's POV. Basically, he will end up owing you child support and alimony (for a period of time). In addition, you are entitled to half of the marital assets. You are allowed to spend some of your family savings for a lawyer and your WH must continue to support you and your children while a divorce is pending.
Thus, unless the two of you are broke and he is unemployed, you should have the financial means to hire a good attorney who can then help you secure your financial future.
Finally, definitely speak to a lawyer before moving out of your home because, in some states, this could be construed as "abandonment" and negatively affect your rights in a divorce.
Don't lose hope and don't give up. Get the professional help you need and you will be fine. You may even be surprised how remorseful your WH becomes once he understands what a divorce is going to cost him, emotionally, financially and in terms of time with his kids.